Things we are: A safe place to share A Refuge A place of belonging A place to care for others and to be cared for A place to grow A place for healthy changes	Things we are not: A place for gossip Therapy A place to judge others A place for perfection A quick fix A place to tell others what to do

1. It is safe to be honest. We expect all members to tell the truth.

2. It is safe to have feelings. All feelings are acceptable to God and to us.

3. We give each other feedback as long as it only reflects our own experience, strength, and hope. Therefore, we begin our feedback with “I”, not “you”. We do not give advice.

4. We do not preach. We may share messages of spiritual strength, hope and encouragement, but we avoid comments that include words like, “should,” “always,” and “never.” We also avoid expressions such as, “God says….” Or “God’s will for your life is….” Or “God will be angry if……” We respect where others are on their spiritual journey and allow God to meet them in His way and His time.

5. We do not shame ourselves or others. We do not put down ourselves or anyone else------including our spouses. Instead, we own our anger and express it appropriately, avoiding name calling.

6. Although we may talk about how our spouse’s behaviors have affected us, we focus on our own healing and transformation. We do not blame others for our choices. We take responsibility for our actions.

7. Group time will be divided among those who ask for time to share.

8. We abide by the principle of group confidentiality. We do not reveal the identity of other group members or what others have share in group, even to our spouses. We may share with others what we have shared in group if we choose to do so. However, we must protect the safety of the group by keeping what other group members share in complete confidence.

* Note on the limits of confidentiality: If anyone discloses that a child, disabled person, or elderly person is being harmed, or there is intent to harm, we are required by law to report that to the proper authorities.
If a group member discloses threats of harm to self or to others, the law may require that action be taken to protect the parties involved.

1. Daily time with God - prayer and the study of His Word.
2. Begin journaling your thoughts "use the" "homework questions" if you like.
3. Choose a "Sharing Partner", someone you can call just to talk or share a specific prayer request and be accountable to.